Do we not struggle to position ourselves psychologically and socially/relationally after a hefty rebuke from someone we value? Or, when we dished it out do we not find it difficult to know when to stop putting the pressure on? I propose that if we ignore the important role of ‘rebooting’ we lose with it a sense of wisdom in human behavior and end up acting illegitimately. Or perhaps, we might zone-out of needful personal change too readily. Proper reboot kills the negative nurse and rehearse and keeps new moments fresh and positive.

If we consider life we see the ‘reboot’ in everything such as in the reboot of each new day, new week, new month, and as in what each new year brings to us. Scientists call it our circadian rhythms (24-hr cycle), but I call it the ‘reboot!’ If we understand it, it will turn our challenges into opportunities and our fear to faith. Think of the great value to each farmer (and to each plant in nature) that in every yearly cycle life gives the opportunity for fresh growth, fruiting, and propagation. The land prospers also if it lays fallow (nature’s reboot) every seven years. Kinesiologists rave about the benefit of a good night’s sleep/reboot to an athlete’s muscle repair and growth. Artists, through rest/reboot times enhance their ability to create. Stress is irrevocably linked to the lack of daily rest/reboot. And what about our pets? They live in instant reboot. They forgive every unkind act from their owner instantly and remember every kind act seemingly forever. How many angry or foolish words and actions would not have seen the light of day if we had grasped the value of rebooting? Life’s reboots teach us not to hold on too tightly to what we have.

How then, can we seize on that opportunity to reboot often, and as often as possible? I define reboot as: take stock, stop and think; allow yourself the time to process; learn from your situation; analyze where growth and maturity is for you; redirect your steps accordingly. Skeptics might argue that the reboot is an excuse for procrastination, but I propose otherwise. Parents have stood perplexed in the face of teenage zone-out, but would they have handled their respective situations differently if they understood the ‘natural’ teenage reboot? The “I can’t deal with you right now” could be no more than “I am in reboot mode: I need time to think”, or, “I need time to think through your disconfirmation of my actions, or my disconfirmation of your actions”.

Thinking for reboot encourages me when I have received someone’s disconfirmation to give myself the space I need to process the source’s accuracy, and my behavior. In psychoanalytical terms, any form of engagement to a message is healthy, since it facilitates potential solutions (Priester & Petty, 1995, pp. 640-653). This is what potentially builds, in every person, a proper and stable self-persuasion infrastructure. Of course, the source’s trustworthiness is crucial in process-reboot-behavior, such as, the trust between parent and child, friend and friend, or husband and wife.

Conversely, let us assume, we are the ones seeking an altered behavior from another. How do we communicate our disconfirmation through a reboot mindset? I propose that ‘reboot’ thinking builds patience and humility in each relational process. Patience teaches the disconfirmer to wait, and humility teaches that no one has the full view on any situation.

Might we then see through this process the prevention of such things as ‘divorce,’ ‘breakdowns’  between parent and child, and ‘fall-outs’ between employer and employee?



5th September 2003


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